Interesting-ThoGht Provoking (Lie)

**OvI** · September 16th, 2005, 04:58 PM

INTERESTING : THOGHT PROVOKING

How to Tell If Someone is Lying to You.

Ever wonder if a person is telling you a lie? There are clues which can tell you that a person is being less than truthful to you and that are methods you can use to get at the truth or manipulate the situation.

How To Spot a Liar:

1. No eye contact. His eyes will look away. If the room has a means of
egress - that's where they'll look.
2. Crossing of arms and/or legs (a protective instinct).
3. The pupils of the eyes will narrow. Lying is stressful.
4. Hands on the face, especially the mouth. They r "covering" de lie.
5. Talking fat. A liar wants to get it over with.
6. Sometimes de head will nod a "no" when answering a "yes" question
or visa versa. This is a subconscious movement.
7. Mispronouncing the words or mumbling. A liar kind of thinks he is
not lying when he pronounces words incorrectly or mumbles.
8. Overstated friendliness/laughing. He wants you to believe and he
wants you to like him so you will believe him.

How Not To Be Lied To:

1. Sit in the higher chair. A subtle sort of intimidation.
2. Uncross your legs and open your arms - lean back. Make yourself
"open" to the truth.
3. Ask for minute details (a challenge to the liar).
4. Don't ever tell them what you DO know - don't point out you know
what they are saying is a lie. This is your own ego trip.
5. Invade their personal space. Get close, they'll get uncomfortable
(good).
6. Mimic their posture and movements..be subtle. This establishes a
rapport and they'll never figure out why.
7. Speak in their style. Listen to how they think. If the person says
things like "I HEAR ya!" or "that SOUNDS good", you'll know he
thinks auditorially or with his ears. If he says "I shoulda SEEN
it comin" or "I SEE what you mean", you'll know he is visually
oriented. If he says things like "it HIT me like a tons of bricks"
or "I just FROZE in my tracks", you'll know he thinks by feelings.
Speak to him the same way. A good test is to ask someone to recite
the alphabet. Some people will stare as if they are looking at
the alphabet above the blackboard in grade school (visual), some
people will sing the alphabet (auditory) and some people will taps
out the letters(feeling). If you match their thinking method,
you'll have instant rapport.
8. Give 'em an "out". You gotta make it easy for them to to tell the
truth. Pretend you didn't hear them correctly or tell them you
didn't understand what they said. Always leave a way out so they
recant their words and tell the truth.
9. Stay calm. Never show surprise or shock. Treat everything they say
with the same importance. The first time you react negatively you
will lose any chance of being told the truth.

enjoy..!

**OvI** · January 30th, 2006, 11:59 PM

Ajj kal mithuk barse... r ami mithuk kom dekhtesi..... ei gula use kroe dk.. :\

**Prova** · January 31st, 2006, 10:57 AM

Eigula to bujhlam...but how can u tell if someone is lying over the internet....

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**ReeV** · February 1st, 2006, 04:24 AM

Well ... OvI ... ami nijeke dekhe bujte pari ... Ami jodi mitha bolte chai ... tahole eishob kono tai amar modhe dekha jay nah ... So Liar hoile eishob clue samne thakbei emon kono kotha nei ... Ami jokhon serious vabe mitha boli ( college and Parents ) tokhon amar modhe eishob kono tai kaj kore nah ... ( tara nije rai bolche )

And prova ... Net e kew jodi mittha bole ... taholeo boja jay ... Ektu bhalo vabe chinta korte parlei hoy

**Cinderella** · February 1st, 2006, 01:05 PM

yea amio reev er shate ekmot..ami nije mitta kom boli..ja bolar bole dei..but jodi kokhono boli ai bepar gula kaj kore na amar vitor..

prova net a hajar hajar manush hajar hajar bar mitta bolche so agfei take trust na kore age dekho sha kamon u try to believe..jodio ami manush k khub shohojei trust kori..but asole kono manuish k ami kharap vabte pari na..mone hoy sobai valo..i think eta khub e baje ekta bepar..

**Prova** · February 2nd, 2006, 03:31 AM

Hmm..bujhte parsi.....Net e shobai miththa bole.....i mean most of the people...ami trust kori na....only special jon der kori..or apon jon arki......net e asholei kauke bishshash kora uchit na.....anyways..

Thanks Ovi, Thanks Reev, and Thanks Cindy Apu