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Relationships and talking about your feelings


"I'm 16 years old and I'm planning to have sex very soon. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months (we went out before) and he is a real sweetie. He hasn't pushed me to have sex, but I want to. I have had much advice from teachers (in sex ed.) but they are no use to us, because I want to know why are parents and adults against sex? Why, well excluding the fact that you can get pregnant and get a disease, what is so bad about sex? Absolutely nothing, so long as you remember some of the advices in sex ed. (contraception - condoms) before having sex. I've asked myself many times if I want to or not, why should I or shouldn't I. I've tried to have sex once (same boyfriend) and it hurts a lot, I mean you have never experienced that pain, at least me. So you have to be with someone that will stop if you tell him to, because if not that someone will not stop because he would want to satisfy himself and not give a F*** about ur pain, so make sure you love the person you are with. Do not rush into it, during it or after it, and good luck." Maria
Fancying someone - being attracted

Being attracted to someone can be exciting but you may feel quite anxious, wondering if they feel the same for you. If you ask them out and they refuse you may feel rejected. You may be concerned that if people find out who you're interested in, they may tease you about it. Some people are so worried about this that they find it difficult to get started.
Does she fancy me? - Is he interested? - How can I tell?

This is a question that loads of people ask - and there isn't any simple answer. You could always try asking them out - that's they only way you're going to know for sure!
Asking someone out - on a date - getting started

Many people find this the really difficult bit - how do you ask someone out? There's no simple answer to this one, either, but the main thing to remember is that 'if you don't ask, you don't get'. What's the worst that could happen? They say "no." Well, that's not the end of the world - and anyway, they might say "yes", you won't know until you ask. Anyway, even if they say "no", they might say "yes" later - now they know you're interested, they might just need time to think about it.
The practical side of asking someone out doesn't have a recipe, I'm afraid - it's different in every situation. However, there are a few useful things to remember:

• Asking someone out is flattering - they should be pleased, even though they might be surprised.
• Try to get the person alone before you ask them out - it's often harder with other people around.
• Try to get to know the person a bit, first.
• Try to relax!
• Sometimes, you just have to say it - "Will you go out with me?"
• If they say "yes" - brilliant!
• If they say "no" - well, you've just got to respect that. Remember, it doesn't say anything about your value as a person.
• Remember - there's someone out there for everyone!

Going out - dating - having a relationship

There're lots of different types of relationship, from 'friends-with-benefits' to full-on marriage! All relationships are different, but they usually all have one thing in common - when you're in a relationship with someone it usually means that you both like each other (and fancy each other!) more than anyone else.
Most relationships are monogamous - which means that for as long as you stay together, you'll only be physical with each other - you won't get off with anyone else or have sex with anyone else. The advantage of this is that you're less likely to catch any sexually transmitted infections if you stay with just one partner (as long as they don't have any!).
Some people have lots of relationships. Some people have a few, or one long one. Some people don't want a close relationship at certain times in their life.
Sex is an important part of many people's relationships. Not just sexual intercourse ('going all the way') but kissing and touching each other for pleasure. Just because you're going out with someone you don't have to have sexual intercourse.
If you are thinking of having sex with someone, then you might need to read our first time page, and our page on teens, sex & AIDS.
Two views of going out the first time

"The first person I went out with, a girl from school, was really lovely but she must have thought I was an absolute idiot. We went to the pictures and almost as soon as we had sat down I tried to kiss her. She sort of kissed me back so I thought, great, next step, hand down her shirt. She wasn't keen on that, so I tried to put my hand up her skirt. Then she got up and said she was going home. It took me a while to realise what a stupid thing I had done. You can't rush into these things and everybody has different feelings about things they like. You have to understand that and make sure it's what you both really want to do."


"Although I'd really fancied Jim, when we actually went out together it was an absolute disaster. We went to see a film, but in the end I only saw a few minutes of it. We sat down, it went dark, and next thing I knew he was trying to snog me. Trouble is, I think I must have been his first date because he had no idea how to kiss. I tried to respond but it was a bit difficult. Next, he had his hand down my shirt, and it's our first date! I quite like that sort of thing but I want to do it when I feel like it, you know, not by numbers. I mean, I don't really know Jim and if we could have just relaxed and talked and had a laugh it would have been better. I know he was just nervous really but some boys can be so insensitive."

Keeping Going

Being in a relationship can be really good.
"It feels like you're walking six foot in the air."
It can give you a real high to know that someone wants you and you want them. Many people feel more confident about themselves when they are in a relationship.
For most people being 'in a relationship' is an important part of their lives. It can be hard to keep a relationship going. You have to work at it. There may be tensions between partners and pressures from people and circumstances outside. For example, your friends might resent you not spending so much time with them. You might feel that your reputation depends on who you go out with, how long for and what you do together.
It is easy to become jealous and possessive and wonder if your partner is going to go off with someone else. You might not be able to talk to your partner about it, but it can help to check out your feelings with somebody else you trust.
"Some people think you're only half a person until you love someone."
Two views of a relationship

"I just can't control my jealousy. It feels like my girlfriend goes out of her way to upset me by flirting with my friends. Since I mentioned it to her she tries to annoy me even more by talking about good looking men. I know she's saying it to wind me up but I can't control my feelings of jealousy.
I sometimes plan to follow her when she's going out with her friends to see if she is seeing someone else. When I brought it up with her she said she loved me and I was being stupid. But how can I be sure? I don't ever want to lose her. Sometimes I think it's her friends that are leading her on."


"I feel trapped because he is so possessive. Every time I go out with my friends he accuses me of being unfaithful and sneaking off to see other boys. Why are boys so possessive? I'm not his property am I?
Some of my friends say that a boy's reputation would be really bad if they were ****** by a girl. That's why they are so possessive. I still like my boyfriend, he's just being immature.
He says he loves me and talks about when we have children and live together. Sometimes this seems really romantic, but mostly, I feel under pressure because I don't know what I want yet."

Breaking Up

Very few people stay for ever with the first person they have a relationship. Some people can feel trapped in a relationship. People who stay together just for the sake of 'being together' or because it seems like everyone else is in a couple may not be happy or be good for each other.
Relationships break up for lots of reasons. For example, because they get too 'heavy' or serious. Or because one of you feels used or because you want to do different things.
It can be difficult to break up because you may feel upset and feel like you're hurting someone. But sometimes it may be a relief for both of you.
Two views of breaking up

"Boys and girls are different aren't they. It stands to reason. I mean I'm not like Kerry, I can't stand gossiping about all my worries and telling everyone about our love life.
I sort of feel more comfortable with the lads in the team. I mean you don't have to watch out all the time and try to make an effort like you do with girls. Maybe we're just not suited."


"Danny and me had been going out for six months - things were going really well and we spent most of our time together in school and in the evenings and at weekends. I thought that was what we both wanted because that's what people in love do, don't they?
But then Danny got picked for the first eleven and now he's always training and celebrating and there isn't time. I've tried telling him how I miss him, I'm not jealous, I just want to be with him all the time. I told him that when we were married he'd have to give up his football. He went white and mumbled something about he hadn't realised we were a real long term thing. Then he just got up and left. I haven't seen him since."

Talking about your feelings

Talking about your feelings can help. It can stop you feeling alone and the chances are you will discover other people have had the same feelings. Realising other people have been in the same position helps and you could learn from their experience.
Choosing who you talk to and when is important. It may be someone you fancy or someone you are going out with. If these people are connected with the feelings you have, it can sometimes make it more difficult.
The person you talk to should be someone you feel easy and relaxed with and can trust. It might be a parent or guardian, especially if you have a good relationship with them.
Or it might be that a sister or brother or other relative would be better. Some of your friends' parents might be approachable or you might have a friend who would listen.
Talking to people who are a bit less close to you might be good too. For example, a teacher, or someone at a youth group or a medical person such as a doctor.
Talking about things can be hard. Especially if they are difficult feelings. But it's worth remembering that very often the reaction you get will be helpful and understanding. You may wonder why you got so worked up in the first place.
If you've had an experience different from those covered on this page, or if there's something you don't agree with, or that you think is missing - email and mention that it's for the Relationships page - and we'll add your experiences to the ones here.


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Worldwide Ages of Consent

This table lists different countries around the world, and shows the ages in at which people of different sexualities can legally have sex.
If you're an adult, and you're reading this page for personal information, then you might need a more detailed explanation of these laws as they relate to adults - you can find this on our age of consent FAQ page.
If you're a young person, and you want to find out more, read our page on teens, sex and the law. You might also like to have a look at our "Am I ready for sex?" page.
This table should only be used as general guide - please also read the notes at the bottom of this page.


the link: A table of worldwide ages of consent, including US states


General notes

If more than one age is given then the law within that country or state varies according to region or circumstances. In particular, some countries have regional laws that may overrule the federal law. Also in some cases the age of consent is lower when partners are of a similar age. Where the symbol ? is used, information is either incomplete or unavailable.
In some countries the age of consent is higher for those taking part in commercial sex. In many countries the age of consent is higher when one partner is in a position of trust with regard to the other, or when one partner takes advantage of the other's immaturity. Age of consent laws often do not apply when the partners are married.
The US military prohibits sex between people of the same gender, and sex with a female aged under 16.
In this table, male-female sex is defined as vaginal or anal sex, and male-male sex is defined as anal sex. Other sexual activities may be legal at a lower age.
* The average age of consent does not include countries where it is illegal.
Footnotes

1. Queensland has a 'sodomy law' meaning the legal age of consent for anal intercourse is 18 and vaginal intercourse is 16.
2. In Brazil, authorities may not choose to prosecute if the younger partner is aged 14 to 17 and does not lodge a complaint.
3. In Canada, consensual activity with those over 12 may not be an offence if the accused is under 16 and less than two years older than the complainant. The exception is anal intercourse, to which unmarried persons under 18 cannot legally consent according to national law, although provincial laws may vary.
4. In Finland, sex with someone under 16 is not deemed sexual abuse of a child if "there is no great difference in the ages or the mental and physical maturity of the persons involved." Similarly in Norway, a prison sentence may not be imposed "if those who have committed the act of indecency are about equal in age and development." In both countries, lesser punishments may nevertheless be imposed.
5. In Germany, sexual intercourse is legal from the age of 14 provided the older partner is aged under 18 and provided they are not "exploiting a coercive situation" or offering compensation. In addition, sex between one partner aged 14-15 and another aged under 21 is legal unless the older partner "exploits the victim's lack of capacity for sexual self-determination".
6. The age of sexual consent in Japan is 13 years of age, although prefecture law usually overrides federal law raising the age up to 18.
7. In Mexico the federal law varies according to the age gap between partners and is often overruled by regional laws.
8. In Papua New Guinea, anal sex is illegal in all cases. The age of consent for vaginal sex is 16 for females and 14 for males.
9. Paraguay sets the age of consent at 14 within marriage and 16 outside of marriage.
10. The age of sexual consent in the Philippines is 12 for all, but contacts with minors (under 18) are an offence if the minor consents to the act for money, gain or any other remuneration or as the result of an influence of any adult person.
11. In Portugal it is illegal to perform vaginal intercourse with a minor between 14 and 16 years old "by taking advantage of their inexperience".
12. Although Thailand's age of consent is usually said to be 15, the laws can be interpreted to allow prosecution for sex with someone under 18.
13. In some U.S. states a lower age applies when the age gap between partners is small, or when the older partner is below a certain age (usually 18 or 21).

Notes on U.S. laws

The Supreme Court in the USA has recently struck down sodomy laws which outlawed consensual, same-sex adult sexual activity. In general this means that the ages of consent for male-male and female-female sex are the same as the age for male-female sex. However in some states it is not entirely clear how the decision will be applied to their laws. If you are unsure about the age of consent in your state then it is a good idea to seek clarification from your state government.
"Law invalidated" means that the legislation was struck down in court and that the law is 'null and void'. It does not mean that the law has been removed.
"Law repealed" means that the law was removed and changed.
Disclaimer

We rely on the help of our readers to keep this table as accurate and up-to-date as possible. If you know that the age of consent in your country differs from that given above, and if you can supply good references to prove it, then please contact us. Please note that AVERT will not answer personal enquiries about age of consent.
This page is intended for educational purposes only and should not be used to inform personal decisions. If you are in any doubt about the age of consent law in your region then please seek expert legal advice.






i bring to ur attention that the age of consent in bangladesh is absent in the table

i ud seek to clarify that, howevr am not certain what the age of consent is over here in bd


help by posting that in this thread (with a valid reference), and ill update the table ASAP









feedback is awaited

sOME MORE Great Infos..u bben working on it tanna??

yes i have

RAYAN, do u know of the age of consent in bd?