How do you say a 'NO' ?

Well, I have been thinking of opening this thread since when i was glancing over some psychology books in a small book fair. So the question here is very Simple

Now lets make it complex

Well, we say NO very often. We say NO easily to say ferriwala, Hawkers. But here we are NOT talking about these simple NOs. We are talking about saying a NO (on somewhat serious issue) to our close/closest, dear/dearest ones .

So here are few questions.

1. Are you a Mr/Ms 'Yes Yes' Person (obidient,who always agrees) to your close ones? If your answer is NO then check the next questions.

2. Do you feel its more difficult to say NO to the closer ones than any third person?

3. Do you think twice or more when you say a NO to your closed ones? Or you say whatever you feel at first instant.

4. Do you phrase/rephrase differently, make the statement light/lighter soft/softer (than the actual hardness of the disagreement) when you say a NO to your close ones? If yes How you try to make softer.

5. Do you think what will be the reactions from the other end after you say a NO, and have a mental preparation to handle the reactions before you say the NO? Or
you try to explain whatever you feel and you dont feel any need to take any mental preparation to handle the future reactions, because you have the confidence to handle those reactions.

6. Are you afraid of saying a NO to a group of people?

7. What are the thoughts you make before saying a NO to a group of people.

More questions to be added depending on the responses. I am hoping this discussion will help us to make a better mass communation.

- khali twice bole, amar mukh diye no ta ashte onekhon shomoi lage. bises kore apon jon.

- No, jokhoni boli ekta reason to thakbei. r shei reason jetai hok na keno amar shundor awaj diye r o soft korar chesta kori. jodi ador deya jai to ador dei...LOL

- he shob shomoi mental preparation jodio thakena. tobe amar jeta shotik lage shetai boli. jodi poshtai to abar sorry bole yes boli. grrrr i hate my self. ami no bole onek shomoi regret kori. je keno ei kaj ta korlam. erpor abar kache jeye sorry bole yes boli onek shomoi jodio late hoye jai tobuo i try to make it up.

ashole ami shob shomoi chesta kori chinta korte no bolle porobortite amar ki dhekte hobe. onek shomoi jodio chinta korina. lol mood er upor o depend kore.

- ummm, thoughts.....ora ki proshno korte pare ta mentally prepared kore rakhi jodi shobar mind read kora possible na. kintu common gulo mathai rakhi. tobe ami group ke bhalo bujhate pari. jodi ami "no" bole thaki ora disagree kore ami obosshoi oder disagree bujhar chesta kori. r jodi prove kore ami wrong tahole i change my decision with the solid logic.

1. Are you a Mr/Ms 'Yes Yes' Person (obidient,who always agrees) to your close ones? If your answer is NO then check the next questions.
- NO.

2. Do you feel its more difficult to say NO to the closer ones than any third person?
- Yes. It is difficult. Come on.

3. Do you think twice or more when you say a NO to your closed ones? Or you say whatever you feel at first instant.
- Umm, If im saying No for without any reason And i hardly doubt that I ever eXpressed whatever I feel at the first instant.

4. Do you phrase/rephrase differently, make the statement light/lighter soft/softer (than the actual hardness of the disagreement) when you say a NO to your close ones? If yes How you try to make softer.
- Not like phrasing differently. I just try to be more logical than usual whenver im saying NO.

5. Do you think what will be the reactions from the other end after you say a NO, and have a mental preparation to handle the reactions before you say the NO? Or
you try to explain whatever you feel and you dont feel any need to take any mental preparation to handle the future reactions, because you have the confidence to handle those reactions.
- Yeah. I always think about it. And about mental preparation, Sometimes. If im not out of my mind. And about confidence, I only feel confidence if i have something already in my mind to say.

6. Are you afraid of saying a NO to a group of people?
- Not Really.

7. What are the thoughts you make before saying a NO to a group of people.
- Its easier than saying NO to someone VERY SPECIAL and CLOSE. Its like, Demanding what I want, Taking My right, Saying what I need to say, eXpressing my thought clearly, showing them Im here too. lol. lots of thoughts.

PROVA- Vor said, If the first answer is NO then check rest of the questions.