The Pains & Joys of Living Abroad

who wants to leave our motherland???? i think nobody. though some people say that they dont like to live in bd but it doesnt mean that they hate bd, its just bcoz they have some bitter experiences in bd. nways i'd always thought of going abroad but i was never serious. but when i broke up wit my one and only ex-gf(now a famous model of bd) i decided that i wont live in bd anymore. so i started taking preparation and very soon i got admission & the student visa of australia. one day i left my country. it was only bcoz of my ex-gf i left bd as i never wanted to see her face anymore. i was so upset that even everybody of my family was cryin in the airport as i m the youngest kid of my family, but i didnt cry at all. and my friends were also cryin for me. i was just waiting when i'll leave frm here. very soon, i got into the plane i started feelin a little bit pain in my chest. it was bcoz i stopped myself cryin in front of everybody. and i couldnt stop myself anymore, i started cryin in the plane silently. i could see the best city frm the window of the plane which i love most.

the next part of my life started frm here . sydney, for many ppl its a dream city. b4 i came here i also thought something like that. my aunty went to the airport and i was living in her house. on my way to her house frm the airport i saw the streets, avenues, bridges, fly-overs, lights, cars, ppl everywhere and i was being amazed. at last i went to her house. its in a suburb of sydney called lakemba. when i first went there it seemed to me that this area is like baridhara. though now i know its the shittest area in sydney(never mind). first few days were good. i went to visit the harbour bridge, opera house and all the other scenic areas. but good times never stay too long. my aunty started showing another face of her to me. she kept telling me all the time to find a job, though my parents told me not to work anywhere unless needed. but my aunty told me to find a job and leave her house as soon as possible. in sydney, the most popular job among bangladeshis is kitchen-hand jobs due to it's easy to get and paid by cash.

after a long day of struggle to get a kitchen-hand job, i managed to get one. the manager told me to come on the next day. here i should mention b4 working there i never had the idea wats a kitchen-hand job. so the next day i went there wit a very formal outfit. i met the restaurant manager and he took me to the kitchen and told me to wash all the dishes, chop the chicken,beef & pork!!!. i started working there frm 7:30 pm and finished at 10:30 pm, 3 hrs. and i worked there without any work permit as i didnt have that. at the end of that night's work the manager told me to leave and then i asked him "wouldnt u pay me"? he told me as i dont have the work permit so i worked there as a trial and they dont pay for the trial. i became really angry, i holded is collar and asked him for the money otherwise i would've punched him. then he gave me $10 and told me to leave otherwise he would've called the police. i took that $10 and left that place.

that was my first job in australia(dream country). now i m working in american express as a business consultant. i never worked in the kitchen anymore.

so for ppl who've never gone to abroad, never think that life's very easy over there. its worse than bd, though u can earn heaps of money but life's not good here. for education its good but for living its not good. i'll also go to bd permanently frm 2008 insha allah. bcoz the so called western culture is based on broken family where children don take care of their parents, where sex is free as anything, where life's only life without any love, where ppl don trust each other, where religions and morals are seen as obligations and where human r not human.

nways, my intention of this writing isnt discouraging our youths to go abroad. they must go to other countries. bcoz when somebody lives in abroad, he/she devolopes some habits like doin own works, and becoming self-dependant(except minister,ghushkhor & chorakarbari-der putro konna-ra). thats a really good thing. 'coz in bd we never do our own works but when we come here, we do all our own works by ourselves. there r many more good things we learn here.

so, y not we all take the good things frm other countries and then go back to bd and try to devolop our country??? today we young ppl in abroad don know wat r we losin, but when we will bcome old then we'll realize wat we've lost in our life. all those nice moments wat young ppl in bd r enjoyin like adda of TSC, or dhanmondi lake-er pashe gf niye datin, eid-er bikel-e sangshad bhaban, or winter-e cox's bazar, or bashundhara city-te shopping, or shaheen college-er BAMBA-r concert, or ashulai-te long drive-e jawa, pohela boishakh-er ramna, maa-er haat-er khabar, bd-r shundor shundor meyera, and many many things.....

nways watever ive written down here is my own personal feeling. if it hurts somebody i beg apology for that. thanx all…

...i got upset really ....donno y but i became sad after reading ur post ..... ...ato boro post first a vabsilam porbo na ...but whn i start reading it i cnt stop myself ....

I got upset too bro ......... ami o prothome mone korecilam 1st post ta skip korbo kintu pora shuru kore r ta korte parini .... yeha dtaz true .............. abroad lyf is lyk dat ........... where u can acquire everything except mental peaceness .............. Bro ... tumi amake khub imotional kore diyeco ........... keno jano ? .......... tomar Last Linez gulo amar O mone pore ............. EiD er Sondhate SongSod Vobone (Flague er nice boshtam) .......... Pohela Boishakhe ager raat theke Adda Ditam Romnay ........ Bosundhora S Moll complete howar agey ami Dk cereci .... so otar kotha bolte parbona ........... Maa er hater khabar .......... ApI r bag theke Taka Chintay ....... r TSC ............... Oh Man ............. Ami Abroad e ashar ager din sondhateO dourani kheyecy .............. lolzzzzz .......... Yeah .... AmiO BD k khuuuuuub mis kori ........... wish u all da best bro....... ta model tar nam ki ? .......... nam r add ta dao ... tomar sathe biye diye dibo .............. trust me .........

Well ... Ami ei thread ta Last day dekhechilam but tokhon porer shokh hoy ni ... But tarpor Cindy and Boiragi'r post dekhe purata porlam and ... I have nothin else 2 say ... But guyz look on da brighter syde ... he didnt gave up ... Now datz da spirit bro ...

if u r living in a western country, that doesnot mean that u have to follow their culture.
It is someones choice how he will live, it depend on u whether u will go to the night club or u will go to the mosque. western peoples values may be different from us but that doesnot mean that they life is without any love and they dont trust each other.and one thing for sure that they r more human than any of us.

i m 100% agree wiv u bro.............Tay to bollam My SydNy k je Bolo ........ Model tar Naam r address.....2008 sale ami oder Biya porao .............kintu ekhono to pelam na..........

naam bola jabe nah bro, bodnaam hoye jaabe.

and gonder bro, u think ppl frm western r more human than us??? i just give u some examples:
1. who r responsible for all these wars in the world, western ppl or eastern ppl???
2. how ppl live in western culture when they become old??? do their children care about them????
3. how r the relationships between boys and gals in western culture??? wats the base of their relationship??? love or sex???
4. u think western ppl r not racist??? do u know b4 1975 only white ppl in australia were allowed to go inside any pub or club??? and how we eastern ppl always treat them???? like them or with hospitality???
5. who started slavery???and who stopped it??? if u say george washington i'd say muhammad(sa) stopped it 1500 yrs ago in arab
6. my aussie friend told me when he was a kid his mother could never take care of him,so he used to go to a baby-sitter??? u also used to go to baby-sittergonder bro??? its another example of western culture
7. parents in western country country send their children to work aged 11/12. can u imagine the same thing in our culture??? is it possible that our parents would send me to work when we were only 11/12???
8. how r the songs, music videos, and movies of western culture??? can we watch these things in front of our parents??? does it look decent??? though they make some really good movies, musics and music videos which let ppl frm eastern culture(specially indian and nowadays few bangladeshi too) to copy...showing secret parts of our body and appealing sex, is it humanity???
9. war in iraq & afghanistan is by western people, muslim ppl r being killed in palestine, lebanon, chechniya and many other countries by western ppl, even our country was a colony of western ppl for 200 yrs, UN,world bank, IMF all these organizations r held by western ppl, the whole world is now a colony of western ppl.
after reviewing all these examples do u still think that western ppl r more human than usgonder bro??? wateva will be ur decision, i'll admire it. 'coz i m also a part of this <censored><censored><censored><censored>en western culture though i hate it. and i hate this ENGLISH language...thank you

Bodnamer gusty Kilay Bro ............ listen when u join here u Bcom a member of this family ........ so family memberder Bipode jodi amra samne na agay to r ke ki korbe ? ................... Trust me ...... Ami thakte tomake kew Kicu Korte Parbena .................