[BoIRaGi]

First of all i would like to say .. this BF / GF means not only Beloved / Lover ... but also close friends / school friends ........... or just friends


in many society like us having this problem .... its like .... if any one has BF / GF after marriage the hubby / wife got annoyed / angry on the next one and alwayz gives suspicious look .... not only that .... it is one of the reason of breaking the relation & having divorce ..... not only dat it also creats so many problems in married life.(Specially in conservative society)


So ... com on friends .... lets talk about it .... is it good or Bad having BF / GF (as a lover / friend ) ????


what r the problems of having BF / GF after marriage ?


if there is any problem then how could we solve it in our life ?


com on ... lets start talking >>>>>>>>>>

[Prova]

Umm..Yea!!....i donno what to say after that..!! well ofcourse its bad to have a relationship after marriege...why wud u? even tho u know whats gonna be the consequences if she/he gets caught??..so why ruin your life?..Even if u DO have a bf/gf after marriege..then they have to talk it out...if u r not happy with your husband/wife..then...why get married on the first place?....if they are having problems in relationship then they shud go to a councelor.........and discuss....having another relation adds another problem....so don do it!

[TiTaKoRoLLa]

having bf/gf as a lover: NO
as a friend: i dun see wuts wrong with it. however, there should be a sort of limit...eg. no excessive/none hugging/kissing etc etc. no talking on the phone with them forever. and no ignoring ur hubby/wify cuz of them..i mean u did marry the person, so they do deserve priority

[ReeV]

Oohh Man, U might have just asked Do U have any prob If Ur wife jumps into a Porokia

Obviously I'll be Krazy If she has a Lover. Why wudnt I

And Just as Frnd or somethin lyk that. Lemme think. I got no problem until it turns out to be somethin odd or disturbing. b4 THat, I really don have any problem. Besydes Tita K said a Lot about wut Im thinkin ryte now.

[BoIRaGi]

hmmm ... so none of u gonna accept BF / GF of urs hubby /wify in ur lyf ........ its clear ...

but if this situation comes lyk ---- >> U looved someone a lott ... but for some reason u couldn't marry him / her ....

R u going to forget him / her totally ? ....... how could u handle that situation ?

[Ronoklanto]

	Quote:			Originally Posted by BoIRaGi
	First of all i would like to say .. this BF / GF means not only Beloved / Lover ... but also close friends / school friends ........... or just friends

for the sake of simplicity, let's call the close frnds "male/female frnds"...

	Quote:			Originally Posted by BoIRaGi
	in many society like us having this problem .... its like .... if any one has BF / GF after marriage the hubby / wife got annoyed / angry on the next one and alwayz gives suspicious look .... not only that .... it is one of the reason of breaking the relation & having divorce ..... not only dat it also creats so many problems in married life.(Specially in conservative society)

in these days, esp in educated families in bd, having male/female frnds after marriage is not considered something unusual/bad...it totally depends on the mentality of the couple n rest of the family members...coz of man's possessive outlook/behaviour, wife having male frnds after marriage is still less common than the other way around...among the so-called "high class" society in bd, husb n wife having affairs after marriage is not a big deal at all...boroncho eitare "class" maintain korar onnotomo technique hishabe dekha hoy...koyekdin age ek young couple theke shunlam tader recent party experience-r kahini...ek "borolokder" party-te jaia naki tader akkel-gurum obostha…shob bouder nam ekta bowl-e fela hoy...ar chelera aisha ekta ekta nam tule...jar nam uthe, she becomes his date for the rest of the night...kono restriction nai...kototuku shotto jani na, but ei dhoroner kahini age-o shunsi...eibar chena karo mukh theke shunlam...

	Quote:			Originally Posted by BoIRaGi
	is it good or Bad having BF / GF (as a lover / friend ) ????what r the problems of having BF / GF after marriage ?

i think there're at least two other threads on post-marital affairs...but in short, of course it's bad...it lowers sacred value of marriage n destroys the foundation on which a family is built upon...it's not only the couple who suffers from a broken marriage...the children (if there's any) suffer even more n it's not even their fault...
having male/female frnds aftrer marriage is not bad as long as there's a mutual understanding between the couple n as long as there's a border...

	Quote:			Originally Posted by BoIRaGi
	if there is any problem then how could we solve it in our life ?

learn to respect the value of marriage, know ur limits, be loyal n honest...if u think u can't share something abt ur "frndship" with ur better half, then definitely there's something wrong...also if u can't make ur hubby/wife a part of ur time-pass with ur male/female frnds, then u should avoid it, IF u truly love ur partner...if u do have the tendency to fool around, never get married

[ReeV]

Well, Lets think again Boiragi.
I said, Havin a BF/GF is goin to cause problem. Its totally different. Cant b able to forgettin old Love is another Story.
If u cant marry him/her ( Old Lover ), that doesnt mean that U'll get married to another person and have an intimated relationship wit the Old Lover. U have to choose 1.

[tamchow]

every one is allowed to ave friends init... n dey can be in many forms.. male or species (well dats most of da option we ave) ei topic ta pore amar oi filmer kotha mone porche.. hum tumhare hei sanam... i mean it must be established between da couples dat friends means friends n nothing else.. n hubby wife relation is totally diff n shld not be compared wid freindship at all... its more sacred.. if this is established den jealousy will not come in.. n dere will be full trust between both da couples...

eto kichui bolleo.. ami personally ektu ektu jealous feel korbo amar hubby jodi tar kono freinder ke first priority dey je kono matter e..